To be able to feel is the most sublime experience of being alive. We feel at the physical level, like when someone touches us, but we also feel at the emotional level. Each of these experiences is handled at different degrees by different areas of the brain. The experience of feeling emotions is linked to our physical sensations as well but at a deeper, more subtle level.
For example, the feeling of excitement gives us a rush of energy inside the body that extends to our overall perception. This sense of power inside our bodies makes us feel as if we could accomplish anything.
Loves feel to me like wholeness, hopefulness, and a sensation of floating on a cloud.
On the contrary, sadness feels like an emptiness in the stomach, a hollowness that is not filled by anything.
Other emotions feel pretty much as if we had just received a punch in the stomach. I know this because I have felt it many times before.
In the case of fear, adrenaline runs instantly in a slightly similar experience as the one of excitement, but it’s more of alertness to danger and a trembling of any part of the body. In the moment of fear, many other symptoms can be present, such as dizziness, lightheadedness, and cold sweat.
Guilt feels to me like a downfall of energy, a loss of the sense of value, and a feeling of heaviness that comes with a strong need for punishment that searches for relief to our perceived flaw.
In conclusion, the emotional world is quite powerful to the extent that most of us fear the experience of emotions. Then we consciously or unconsciously try to avoid feeling them in various ways.
In my experience as life coach and long-time observer, I see that most of us choose to lie to ourselves while others use alcohol or drugs to numb these unwanted feelings. Others choose to block their emotions and feelings by psychological mechanisms, such as blaming, projecting onto others, etc. just to numb the painful experience.
I strongly believe that this is the origin of all forms of addiction.
When I have asked people struggling with drug addiction why they’re fascinated by drugs, I get the same answer. They replace low feelings with feelings of euphoria, excitement, and power. Sadly, these feelings are false and, even worse, last only minutes to a few hours. Thus, people keep on using until they become a slave to them for various reasons related to the brain.
In my view, we become cowards to the experience of low emotions and try to escape from them through easy routes, instead of being brave and confront them.
I understand the desire to avoid feelings such as disappointment, guilt, embarrassment, rejection, loneliness, defeat, abandonment, and more; however, in doing so, we incur in self-destruction because we deny ourselves and hide until we don’t know what we feel or even who or what we are.
My intention in this blog is to give you the courage and motivation to dare feel your emotions, even if these hurt because blocking your emotions can be the route to hell.
The good news is that when we allow the full experience of our emotions, they make us grow in strength and wisdom, much like an exercised muscle, and can carry us forward to live a satisfying and beautiful life.
HOW TO LIVE YOUR EMOTIONS AND GAIN STRENGTH
• Listen to Music! Emotions get stuck, and music
is the perfect way to help them flow out of us. If you notice you are finding yourself feeling a sense of boredom or lack of energy, scan your music library and let the door open to your real emotions. See them for what they are and give yourself consent to feel them.
• Label your feelings and emotions. Take a few deep breaths and ask yourself, is it anger? Is it sadness? Go to www.nonviolentcommunication.com for a complete list of emotions. Quite often, it’s just a matter of vocabulary. Distinguishing your emotions gives you a sense of security. It’s like when you feel sick, go to a doctor, and they give you a name to your symptom. It’s incredible to see how that’s enough to provide you with a sense of relief.
• Ask yourself, what facts are creating these emotions? Very often, we exaggerate our flaws and feel disappointed with ourselves because there’s an error in our perception. We must distinguish facts from habits. If, for example, you feel rejected at an event, ask yourself if any facts support your hypothesis, or is it your habit to think you’re being rejected. Apply the same analysis with the emotion of guilt.
• If any facts sustain these emotions, learn from them. Ask yourself, what is in your power to change? If, for example, you feel unloving, ask yourself, what makes you feel that way. Is it your body? What can you do to change it? Will this change make you change your perception of yourself?
Finally, embrace your emotional world to Know and Love Yourself.
Best wishes on your journey